asking a guy out
I like this guy at school, and I think sure he likes me too, but I'm not sure. I'm not out yet, and I'm not ready to come out. Anybody have any suggestions as to how to ask him out without comming out? Thanks.
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You could suggest you go to
You could suggest you go to a movie with him and some other friends, or something like that.
ddsDo u guys share any
ddsDo u guys share any similar interests?
cause usually if u can share common ground its a little easier to start the convo and build a friendship etc...
and another thing to
and another thing to consider. Is he out? because if he is out, gay or bi, and you have reason to think he likes you, I cant see why he wouldnt be flattered?
If he isnt out, be careful, sometimes boys can be dangerous
not out
He's not out, but we are already friends. So, maybe a movie and see what happens from there. thanks. Any other ideas, anyone?
lol To be honest, what was
lol To be honest, what was mentioned above is pretty well the best thing if you aren't sure yet: Find common ground. That's a great thing. If you guys are friends, then that's the best start you can have! It works the same way as making friends with someone. Hang out as a group with other friends (i.e. My friends are going to ____ and I was wondering if you wanna come with.") That seems to work ok. And it seems to progress from there. I dunno if I made sense there, but oh well. You get what I mean.
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...grab him by the testicles and tell him u like him and if he don't like you back u'll twist them until they go black???
i think it's been covered pretty well...but it's an alternative
Movie
Movie I think is the best plan. Dont go with friends though, you need the privacy. Good luck man
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I don't know movies are a
I don't know movies are a bit boring.. don't get me wrong movies rock but what about bowling or laser tag or dinner or i dunno something other then movies.
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I have one question. And i
I have one question. And i dont want it to be negative at all, cause ive been in your position many times, what things lead you to believe he likes you. Because if your arent out of the closet, and hes not either, its going to be really hard to determine if it will work. Has he been dropping hints, or is your gaydar going way off?
and if you are sure hes gay, my first date was a coffeshop, movies tend to be akward. Something mellow and a little less obvious considering your circumstances
well, he gives me looks he
well, he gives me looks he doesn't give anyone else, he sometimes he blushes or "sex flushes" (can I use that as a verb?) when he looks at me, and he always tries to be in my group in class projects. Aditionally, my gaydar is going off, though mine has never been great to begin with. Remember, though, you're getting this from the guy that likes him, so a lot of it is probably just wishfulness.
Um, by asking him out,
Um, by asking him out, you're telling him your queer. No way to avoid it other than..... "I'm not queer but I want to have a relationahip with you like a couple."
lol I guess so. Rory2 had a
lol I guess so. rory2 had a point with the movie thing, though. I'll see what happnes with that.
by asking him out your not
by asking him out your not necessarily declaring that your a queer, if neither of you are out there is going to be a huge barrier or insecurity where ever you go, cause the whole time ur gunna be wondering "shit, i hope gets the memo, does he like me the way i like him etc...." But again, its just advice, ive done what ur about to do, and sometimes it ends up awkward. Try to make it clear beforehand, if thats possible at all. Cuz going on an odd date with a straight guy is not that great.
I think that just saying
I think that just saying 'hey, have you heard of blah blah blah movie that's out?' and leading into 'hmm, wanna go see it on sunday?' and just GOING as just a pair is probably the best step. I think a coffee shop or something more quiet would be better when you're more certain or are closer or are older. Otherwise, the movies would work just to have something to do *other* than talking then, you both get the chance to 'put the moves' on (nothing dirty dirty, you know what I mean) or whisper things; and if it feels totally awkward then you can just talk about the movie afterwards and see how your relationship is after that, or if he asks you to go somewhere later on.
learn from me...sorta..:-/
do what i did...write to him...and tell him that you like him and would like to hang out...the thing about writing someone is that you wont screw up by being nervous and possibly saying something you didn't mean to say...try it...it sometimes works...other times it doesnt....
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well, tomorrow's monday, and
well, tomorrow's monday, and I'll see him for the first time since posting this. I guess I'll do the movie thing. Thanks for your help, and I'll tell you how he reacts.